Wednesday, April 8, 2009

What I know: Parenting - Exposure

By Jennifer Texada

I am going to do things a little different this time. I have moved the blog to a new location

So here are the first few paragraphs of the the most recent post. Click the link at the end to read the entire post.

For the last few days of spring break I took my girls out to the Lake Livingston National Park in Livingston Texas to go camping. Yes camping, in tents in the woods with dirt and campfires and all of that. We had a pretty great time. We hiked on a little trail, and got up early and went fishing. My youngest daughter touched her first worms. It was beautiful, relaxing and cheap.
I realize that dirt is not for everyone, but dirt and worms aside; I know that my daughters will remember that experience for the rest of their lives. They also learned that if they can put up a tent, and bait a hook, then they can probably do anything if they put their mind to it.
I believe that the limitations we put on ourselves are purely mental. When I told my friends what I was doing, a few of them said “Whaaat, black people don’t camp!” Read the rest of What I know: Parenting - Exposure

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

What I Know About: Action + Passion

In the current economic climate a great deal of impact is placed on what we make and how we stay afloat however there is more to life than that. If you are accountant, a receptionist or waitress your passions might not be fulfilled in the same place where you earn your paycheck.

I have a friend who knows how to turn her passion into action. . .She is one of the most interesting and talented people I know. She inspires me and proves the case that there is nothing you can't do if you want to do it.

She is passionate about 2 things; writing, and producing events. In the past few years she has taken time off from both work and passion to give birth to and raise her youngest children. They are getting to the age where they are not as dependent on her, so she began to look for a job. Then, the bottom fell out of the economy, and she has not quite found a job yet.

So she is still at home, in need of a job she could have gotten desperate or frustrated, but instead she got passionate, and wrote and produced her first play.

In producing that play she gave a dozen people who's passion is acting a chance to express their passion. She staged it as a dinner theater, so that she gave her sister who's dream is to cater a chance to express her passion to cook. Long story...short her simple act of expressing her passion to pass time while looking for a job ended up supporting the passions of many other people, and inspiring and entertaining and feeding everyone who had the good fortune of buying a ticket to see "Transforming Gina".

If you are lucky enough to be near Brockton Massachusetts on March 14th stop into the theater at Lincoln Church and see what happens when you put action behind your passion.

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Wednesday, February 4, 2009

What I Know About: Eliminating the Negative

♪ You gotta "accentuate the positive... and ♫ ♪eliminate the negative"♪ that is how that old song goes right? That Johnny Mercer must be some kind of genius!

As usual's my phone has been ringing off the hook and my e-mail box is filled with friends that are pissed of about one thing or another. They are calling me crying, or cussing people out. Por Que dear friends? This is all for not! The targets of your cuss out's don't care. Your tears are not making anyone listen more than usual, or pay a bill on time.

My advice to you is; when you are faced with the negative, find a way to eliminate it from the situation, especially if you do not have the strength to handle it right now. Personally I am tapped out. I am a mother, a daughter, a boss, and employee a sister, a friend and God knows what else. I have to cook, clean, pay bills, blog........ I do not really have time or energy for anything that is not;
  • Positive
  • Uplifting
  • Constructive
  • Lucrative
  • Relaxing
  • Funny

I have enough of the other stuff to contend with, and problems can be solved without all of that nonsense! How do I know, you ask? I have recently tested the theory myself.

So I was riding in the car with "Someone" the other night. Moments before we arrived near my house he said something that really upset me. Something that was not relaxing, constructive or funny, when I realized something... Wait a minute, this is my car! So I pulled over and told him to get out. I did not yell, I just demanded respectfully that he GET OUT OF MY CAR PLEASE. In my mind, my car is a peaceful place, and unless I gave birth to you, you are just not allowed to clutter peaceful sanctuary on wheels with bad vibes.

What!! we were only a few blocks away.

Then guess what happened... I drove home parked in my driveway, and sat on my couch until the doorbell rang. I went to the door and welcomed in a sort of cold, much more humble jerk of a man. He of course came bearing an apology, a sort of lame explanation but overall a better attitude.

In my experience this approach also works over the phone, in e-mail. You do not need to stand there, sit there, read or listen that garbage. Just ♪ accentuate the positive... ♫Eliminate the negative.

Friday, January 16, 2009

What I Know About: Legacy

Almost every decision I have made since the day learned that I was pregnant with my oldest child has been based on what was best for her, and her future.

When I saw that President Obama wrote to his daughters, I was so touched. It reminded me of the letters I wrote to my daughters when I was pregnant with them, and it reminded me of why do what I do every day. His letter made me think about what else I should be doing to ensure that their life is all that they can ever dream that it to be, and more.

President Obama says in his letter
"When I was a young man, I thought life was all about me -- about how I'd make my way in the world, become successful, and get the things I want. But then the two of you came into my world…."I realized that my own life wouldn't count for much unless I was able to ensure that you had every opportunity for happiness and fulfillment in yours. In the end, girls, that's why I ran for President: because of what I want for you and for every child in this nation,"

My goal as a mother has always been to produce people who will be an inspiration and blessing to everyone they meet. I realize that my legacy lies not in what I do, but in what I leave behind. I hope that I can make decisions and teach lessons to them that will resonate with my grand children and maybe even their children.

What is your legacy going to be? When your children walk out your door what will they take with them (other than your checkbook) that will reflect back on you as a parent?

Thursday, January 8, 2009

What I know About: Your Place in My Life

I hear from husbands all the time that they wish that their wife was their "best friend". In the case of my best friend her husband, although we are also friends gets a bit jealous of our relationship. He often wishes that she would tell him all of the things that she tells me, or our other friend that she talks to all of the time.

Her answer to this was that "They are my best friends...You are my husband". When she said it, it made perfect sense to me. A husband is one type of relationship. I think of it as part relative, part business partner, part boyfriend.

She explained to him that I could not serve as her husband... we did not live together, we have no children together, all that we do is talk on the phone or visit or travel every once in a while. Our relationship is not the same.

I am not sure what it is that husbands "think" that they want to take over this relationship? They don't go around saying things like I want to be your mother, or your sister, or your boss? These are all relationships that give you access to insight into your wife... why not that?

I am beginning to believe that every relationship in your life is different. You will not share the same experiences that you do with your spouse, as you do with your mother and father, as you do with your children. My relationship with my aunts is going to be diffent than yours with your aunts. Even the relationships that I have with my children are different from each other. All though the relationships I have with them are both wonderful, they different, and I treasure them both for different reasons.

All and all If I ever marry again my husband probably won't be my best friend, my best friend will remain the same person that it has been for the past 16/17 years. He will be my husband and that will be a relationship that will stand on it's own merit.